I have not written about this before because of several reasons.
The first reason is that I am new to the blogosphere. Almost a year now but compared to other’s that is a baby. My rants are strong and passionate and my cheers are enthusiastic, but non-the less I am new to all of this.
The second reason is because of my background and my career choice. For 33 years I worked in the entertainment industry as a model, actress, singer and dancer.
When a person has chosen a career where looks are first, talent is second (and if talent does not exist then looks become secondary) and third on importance is tenacity but that would be necessary with anyone wanting to be a success. Brains well they are in there someplace if one is lucky.
Showbiz is a multi career of choices. There is acting, modeling, entertainment (singers, dancers etc.), stunt work, script girls, stand-ins any number of vocations within showbiz.
Yes I know all the anger at showbiz people and I have it as well. I hate how they are a bunch of socialists, communists and loathe our military. I hate how so many of them are total cowards and I would say that to their faces and have. I had a chance to tell Hanoi Jane off and took it.
The Hollywood of years gone by there was still these types in showbiz as I mentioned, but the ones FOR our Military where more in abundance. Such as Jimmy Stewart, Glenn Ford, Humphrey Bogart, Ernest Borgnine, Charles Durning, Lee Marvin, Charlton Heston, Charlie Bronson……… many others.
But today those kind of men are few and hard to find in Hollywood. Those that are anti-war, anti-troops and against wanting to go after the terrorists will pay their own price for their lack of character, their scarcity in real love of our Freedom and their insufficient appreciation to those that have paid the price to keep us Free. As far as I am concerned they live in their own self made hell that I want no part of.
Now to the point of why I have decided to write about this.
Girls being girls and men being men there is still a difference thank God, but there are unwritten rules I will call it. T & A is great and men love it and why not it means they appreciate the difference in men and women and it can be a healthy attitude of the opposite sex. Yep there is that word SEX. Don’t ya just love it!! I would vote for it every time!
But here is the thing it is how it is treated that counts. Rape gets a no, molesting gets a no too. Undressing a woman with a man’s eyes when introduced is uncomfortable for a woman to say the least but it does happen. As for me it never got a yes I will go out with you.
Women too love the male T & A, or let’s call it pec’s , deltoids, biceps and glutes….. hey we are not dead and to see a great looking man and appreciate it is healthy. But we want that man to be able to finish a thought, to be able to carry on a conversation before and after sex…..well most of the time. There was that one time……….. you know when I didn’t care what the heck his favorite color was in the box of crayons, or sports team or hobby was. But hey I was young and not in love and it was just once.
Now on to the Blog world with all this sex stuff. Most of the Blogs are owned by men and I love men especially my very hunkie husband. Their Blogs I go to are awesome and I appreciate their brains and how they think about things. I learn from them and also get affirmation to how I feel in seeing I am not overreacting as a yep you got it…. as a female.
Now let’s jump time wise to Vlogs. Hmmmm interesting and has possibilities for those that want to do this kind of thing. I don’t, I had enough years in front of a camera that now I want to be heard more then seen. Go figure. I love HOT AIR and they do a marvelous job with their Vlogs. Michelle is adorable and smart and the combination works when she does a Vlog. She is wise and knows that filming them they have to be checked for sound interference and other things that enter in to making it impossible to hear what she is saying. That it isn’t just about looking at her but also about what she has to say. It does matter and she knows it! She does her Vlogs with class and at the same time still shows her own unique personality. Thank you Michelle! The same goes for the Vlog that Kathy at RWS did. It was first class all the way. And the same with Mary Katharine Ham. So see there are women bloggers that know the difference and they should be appreciated.
On the other hand and sadly that is not the case with everyone that Vlogs. I am not going to get into a pissing match here about this but I will say ….. The variety is why there are stores like Saks Fifth, Williams Sonoma, Neiman Marcus, compared to the Dollar Store. Class shows up and lasts and is appreciate by many more people then low class and a quick fix. To each his or her own but this is my opinion.
OK now this brings me to this, does a person go to a Blog by a man or a woman because of their looks. Gosh if so then I demand I tell you, that every single male Blogger be a bodybuilder and nothing less. Not a jogger, a cyclist, no! A bodybuilder with bulging muscles and deep cut abs (stomach for those that have never been to a gym). I mean it, nothing less will do. And not only that, they have to be knock out great looking, the kind that turns heads when walking down a sidewalk. Yep that should do it. Then I can bookmark their Blog, list it in my Blog favorites and read daily what that person has to say. Because what they say comes out of nice full lips on a body that won’t quit.
Done giggling yet at how silly this sounds. Sure it would be nice to know that every Blog I visit is owned and run by someone that reaches MY standards of how I wish all men would look. But what about girls that don’t like big muscles, what about girls that only like to look at men that have sinewy arms and legs but can complete a rubick’s cube in a moments notice. And does any of this physical bullshit have to do with a brain, intelligence and how one thinks on the issues. Where their loyalties lie when it comes to America and our troops? Nope, nada, Zippo!
The physical package is just something that delivers what is inside of a person. Hopefully they keep their body healthy but how they think and if they a good person is what counts more then anything. Look at the many online friendships and bonding that have occurred and we all meet a brain in a political forum not what their 8 x 10 looks like.
As for women bloggers they are awesome. They are smart, strong and will use the “take no prisoners” attitude when it is needed to get their opinion out there and expressed. But there too, should how they look be the one and only reason a person saves their Blog to favorites?
Smart men know the difference, men like the ones that frequent this Blog of mine. Everyone of them totally AWESOME! They ADD to my blog, their comments and input are outstanding. And men like my husband. Do you think these men would come back here to comment if all they came for was because they had been to my website, seen me on TV or in magazines? Or even had been in the Vietnam War and we met there when I visited the troops each visit? NO, a resounding NO WAY. Oh they might save my website to their favorites, but soon it would be just a website saved and many others would be there in their favorites list of places they had visited and forgotten about. But for them to comment, and keep coming back to comment, to become a part of this Blog family we have here at Theodore’s World Blog aka PC Free Zone….these men want substance. They read my posts, my rants and cheers and found out I am more then a retired bimbo from showbiz and that I wasn’t ever a bimbo.
So do looks count? Not if weighed up against brains. Looks just wrap around them and keep them from falling out.
This is a quote I disagree with………..
“There’s this attitude out there, a perception, that there’s something wrong with beautiful women using their looks to draw readers. The idea is supposed to be that it’s all about their brains, it’s all about their writing, that it’s cheap or improper for them to have guys checking out their web pages just to ogle them.
That’s bullcrap.”
It was made by a man named John Hawkins.
Here is what is wrong with that in my opinion. I am a fan of Ann Coulter and so is my husband. I think her looks are ok, my husband has said she is not his type as far as looks. BUT we both like what she says and writes, she is fantastic! Now because her looks are not what Nick (my husband) would call a knock out that should not diminish her intelligence and her gift for writing great books.
Beth at MVRWC IS a knockout. I have met her, my husband has seen her photo and she is also brilliant! But she does not have to flaunt her looks to get others to want to read what she says. Her intelligence is equal to her looks and her personality is passionate and delightful which makes it fun to see how she expresses herself at her Blog. It can really make a persons day sometimes to read her take on something.
SondraK also, once again beautiful and very smart. Linda, Beth at Blue Star Chronicles, Cassandra, Raven, the list goes on and on of beautiful women with brains. If they want to throw in some sexy photos for fun is one thing, but to flaunt it like the quote says, it isn’t going to happen.
And one last comment I want to discuss that John Hawkins made……….
“Long story short, we all have different strengths and weaknesses and life isn’t fair. If you’re a female blogger and one of your strengths is your looks, there’s nothing wrong with trying to look sexy to entice guys over to your page. Nothing. At. All. If you’ve got it, flaunt it, and enjoy the increased traffic.”
Um wait a minute here OK? I agree life is not fair, I am 5’11” and there have been times I would have loved to be referred to as cute and cuddly. But being 5’11” does not bring on that kind of comment. Instead it is “ Legs up to your ass” kind of comment is much more common, so be it. But fair would be to at least once I would get to hear cute and cuddly.
He says if a female Blogger and ONE of our strengths is our looks then we should look sexy and flaunt it, to entice guys to our page (Blog) to increase our traffic. If this man is a Father I sure as heck hope he does not say things like this to his daughter. By doing so he teaches her that what she has to say is second to how she looks. And God help her if she is not a knockout because her voiced opinion will be way down on the list of who gives a shit.
This kind of opinion is misguided and even more has the potential of being abusive. Women should be seen and not heard kind of mentality. Does a pretty face and being busty add to the IQ? What if the woman looked great but had a voice like Susan Estrich. And for men I am a fan of Rush Limbaugh, but his 8 X 10 is not what would attract me to him. It is how he thinks, his opinion, his rants and cheers that draw me back to his radio shows. THAT is a turn on not how he looks.
If a man is brilliant and later in life looses his hair, does that mean he has lost his credibility? Even if he is still a GREAT looking man, heck let’s say if Sean Connery were a conservative and when he decided to stop wearing a hair piece, did his brain go in the trash along with his wig?
Too much, way too much is based on looks and how sad not to use intelligence and what the person believes in as a focal point. Sure throw in some T & A too if a person wants to, but for fun or to make a point. Looks can also be a distraction.
Ever been with someone that was drop jaw gorgeous a man or a woman and you sitting across from them and at the end of the conversation you don’t have a clue what that person said. See it has it’s draw backs too. Or ask a busty girl how many times she is talking with a man and his eyes are locked on her chest. Even her face is oblivious to him. I cannot count the times I have crouched down even for fun to show that man talking to me just to show him what he was doing. It usually ends in some laughs but what does it say about him.
And for you John there is this, if you are actually reading this. I love that men and women BOTH read my Blog. Your comments insulted every “HOT”, great looking, beautiful Blogger and commenter as well. By what you stated you diminished not only the Blogger but also those that frequent blogs.
Seems pretty shallow to me and hurtful as well. So count me with those that would rather be one with brains as a broad then a bimbo with boobs.
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